I am a bag lady. My two little girls and I left our home with two paper bags and not even a toothbrush between us.

I thought I had been protecting them from the worst of it. But when they begged me to leave “before he kills you” – I had to face it. I hadn’t protected them. They knew, and they were suffering too.

This blogsite is for the battered, the exhausted, and those who think that sweet death is the only way out. Don’t give up. You can have a good life that is free of fear and pain. Hang on long enough to discover that life. I have been there before you, and I am here for you now.

I have something now that I never expected to have: a good relationship, a happy life, and a real family. I understand that it all seems so impossible when you are still bruised and broken and terrified. Don’t give up. Just don’t search for it before you are recovered. You will, I promise, bring on the same old trouble if you send out those signals too soon.

I always recommend Women Who Run With the Wolves, by Clarissa Pincola Estes. This is the best book I have ever read for believing in, and finding, your power as a woman. This book offers a connection to the old ways, the true ways of the soul. I have read it many times. It is priceless.

There are also many excellent sites which have free help lines.
Safe Horizon and ASafePlaceforHelp are two of the best.

My work, now, is to reach others who do not believe they are worth saving. Those women who expect to be treated badly. My sisters who are too tired to fight back any longer. Try. One more time. Please. It is so very worth it to be free.

Talk to me. Talk to someone, anyone. Get out. Be free. Run while you are still alive. There is so much more to live for than fear and pain.

take care,
i wish you peace and safety

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