Marital harmony, known as “shalom bayit,” is valued in Jewish tradition. The Talmud argues that a man should love his wife as much as he loves himself, and honour her more than he honours himself; indeed, one who honours his wife was said, by the classical rabbis, to be rewarded with wealth.
Similarly, a husband was expected to discuss with his wife any worldly matters that might arise in his life.
Tough love was frowned upon: The Talmud forbids a husband from being overbearing to his household, and domestic abuse by him was also condemned. It was said of a wife that God counts her tears.
The Talmud: Selections, by H. Polano, , at sacred-texts.com p. 286
PROVERBS AND SAYINGS OF THE RABBIS, LEGENDS, &c.
“All the blessings of a household come through the wife, therefore should her husband honour her.”
“Men should be careful lest they cause women to weep, for God counts their tears.”